DEALING WITH LIFE'S PLOT TWISTS
Things don’t always happen as we plan. I remember being a kid with a lot of expectation and plans for life.
Being a planaholic that I am, I planned for everything in advance. Some things went according to those plans while others ….well life happened.
But what happens when things are going just as plan and out of nowhere, either by physical or spiritual involvement, everything changes?
You know the type where you’re on your own, trouble comes for you and you’re there thinking ‘Biko who did I offend in the village?
A plot twist is a radical change in the expected direction or outcome of the plot of a novel, film, television series, comic, video game, or other work of narrative.
Truth is life would be boring if everything went according to plan; even for me as a planaholic I admit that if there were no plot twists in life, everything would be bland and in a way we would all predict the day we would die. These plot twists are not always the best experiences in life but they shapen us for the future and indeed a perfect ending.
Even though we know things will work out in the end, dealing with these twists could be heartbreaking and painful but through it all we must be able to hold our heads up high and ride the storm.
Here are steps I’ve recently identified as my way of dealing with life’s plot twists:
Let it out — it is okay to cry, to be upset at yourself and the whole world. A good few minutes of tears or yelling is therapeutic and in a way liberating. If you’ve been heartbroken or betrayed, remember it is okay to feel hurt, it’s okay to want to cut pictures up but don’t dwell in it for too long so you don’t cry yourself into hole and depression.
Take care of yourself– people underestimate the power of a good pedicure or massage or night out. It may not take the pain away but it relaxes you and gives you time to think back and reflect.
Learn from your mistakes — Disappointment and failure build character and patience, when allowed to do so. They can teach you to win and lose with grace, an increasingly lost art these days. Romans 5:3–4 says it like this: “We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they are good for us — they help us learn to endure. So think back, reflect and Identify ways to make yourself a better person.
Build a support system — It can be tempting to put up walls when you’re feeling especially vulnerable, but if you shut out friends, you could be sealing off healing and hope. During a particularly lonely time in my life, I was very glad to have close friends and it helped me heal faster than I imagined.
Spend time with God — Friends are essential, but humans can let us down and err in judgment. God would never desert you, He said, “I will never fail you. I will never forsake you” ( Hebrews 13:5). Remember He is he author and finisher, which means He is the original scriptwriter which means He knows the perfect ending and has a perfect plan for us.
Whether you can pray or just soak yourself in worship, try to spend time with God.
I may not be an expert, neither is my life problem free but I know this one thing, my plot twist is not by accident and it makes my story a lot more interesting for my perfect ending.